Back in June i got the opportunity to move town to start my dream job. But what do you do when your dream job is not in your dream location?
Moving from a larger city to a small town that I had never even been to was more scary for me than moving to a new country.
I needed to get advise, so I spoke to friends I trusted who advised me to write a pros and cons list.
So many thoughts go through your head ‘Am I doing the right thing?’ ‘What if it doesn’t work out’? BUT I guess at the same time I didn’t really have anything to lose. So after a lot of deliberation and self doubt I packed my life and took to the road to start over again.
I decided to be brave and just go for it. What’s the worst that can happen. And I can always leave right!
Moving to a small town from a city is a shock to the system. I didn’t think i was a city girl until I was taken out of it. It is the variety I missed, eating out, my favourite cafes, cheap flights, an international airport, being near the water, the beaches, good friends and gym classes.
Making friends is tough in the adult world. Usually you find someone at work you click or through a mutual connection otherwise it all seems to be networks on a vague level that is hard to cut through the ice.
In a small town you notice that almost every girl is here because of a partner, or has a child or family. And everyone needs a good girl mate. I realised that most guys here are into hunting and with me being a vegan just ain’t a good fit. Also moving here in winter it is not the time for travelers in the area.
Everyone in a small town seems to knows everyone. In a strange way it is like being in a TV soap. Life is slow and quiet. Oddly I felt like i was retiring, i felt lost.
On a POSITIVE note rent was way cheaper and there was no more traffic nor even traffic lights! Life was simple. It was way easier to save money. Life was easy but missing laughter.
A good friend told me ” it’s good to feel lonely”. I did feel lonely and with that it give me strength to build character.
It takes time to feel settled and develop a network but sometimes feeling like the outsider is the best way to feel. It means you have a fresh perspective, it means you can inspire change and it makes you learn to be patient.
I recommend you use times like this as an opportunity to learn. Go explore, go discover things, stop caring what other people think, appreciate the quiet time. Be happy for yourself. But what I have learnt is not to lose your direction.
There is more than one road!
The friends I have made are ones to keep. I have created new memories. I have discovered awesome wineries. Visited seal colonies for the first time which was an unbelievable experience. I have done new hikes and been to stunning lookouts. I also learnt that a 4 hour round trip is worth doing if it means i get some delicious healthy vegan food!